Two days ago, I realized something remarkable. I am facing choices now, and they are not between "worse" and "worser." They all have an emotional price, but none are about death.
One is moving. After Rich's death, I thought I would be out, like a shot, of this charmless house. It was temporary, chosen for location, ease of care, and what we talked about only briefly because it needed no further explanation -- I could sell it easily. Sixteen months later I'm still here, in part because I want to do more than simply escape, and in part because of wonderful neighbors who I've come to love, and who in many ways have saved my life.
But now I have committed myself to developing a new community where, along with about 45 others, I will be living as soon as it is complete. Remaining here is now bearable because I know it is temporary.
Temporary: my mantra from the choiceless days. Everything was bearable because it was temporary. The surgeries, the loss of Rich's body, the last days.
Some things, of course, are permanent. Rich is staying dead. My only choice is to make this, too, bearable.
Candace
One is moving. After Rich's death, I thought I would be out, like a shot, of this charmless house. It was temporary, chosen for location, ease of care, and what we talked about only briefly because it needed no further explanation -- I could sell it easily. Sixteen months later I'm still here, in part because I want to do more than simply escape, and in part because of wonderful neighbors who I've come to love, and who in many ways have saved my life.
But now I have committed myself to developing a new community where, along with about 45 others, I will be living as soon as it is complete. Remaining here is now bearable because I know it is temporary.
Temporary: my mantra from the choiceless days. Everything was bearable because it was temporary. The surgeries, the loss of Rich's body, the last days.
Some things, of course, are permanent. Rich is staying dead. My only choice is to make this, too, bearable.
Candace